Step 1: DON'T PANIC 
It is not a life-threatening emergency. You have plenty of time to consider things. Just for the moment, don't think about -what am I going to do, will I have it or not, what does he want, will I tell him anyway. You may be in shock right now, and that's no time to use your rational mind. You may be feeling that things are out of your control, just as they were when it happened. But you have to realize it that at that time didn't have control over your fertility, your contraceptive method, your partner's sexual urges, and now if you don't panic you can regain control.
It is not a life-threatening emergency. You have plenty of time to consider things. Just for the moment, don't think about -what am I going to do, will I have it or not, what does he want, will I tell him anyway. You may be in shock right now, and that's no time to use your rational mind. You may be feeling that things are out of your control, just as they were when it happened. But you have to realize it that at that time didn't have control over your fertility, your contraceptive method, your partner's sexual urges, and now if you don't panic you can regain control.
Step 2: DON'T GIVE YOURSELF A HARD TIME
An unplanned pregnancy leads to the emotion of guilt, shame, fear and ignorance. Feelings like "I hate myself", "I am in deep trouble now, look what someone else has done to me" arise. Pregnancy occurred because of all the forces resident in the pelvic area, but resolving this issue can be done only using your head, when you may be feeling cheated by the circumstances.
An unplanned pregnancy leads to the emotion of guilt, shame, fear and ignorance. Feelings like "I hate myself", "I am in deep trouble now, look what someone else has done to me" arise. Pregnancy occurred because of all the forces resident in the pelvic area, but resolving this issue can be done only using your head, when you may be feeling cheated by the circumstances.
It is easy to say that drop your guilt, your hurt, your anger, but that is what is required at this point of time, for you to think rationally. The feeling won't go way immediately, but you have to let go of the guilt, stop dwelling on it, loosen up the mindset, and be open to change. If you are open to change move on.
Step 3: TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR WHAT IS
When you have stopped feeling guilty about your so-called "wrong doing", you must acknowledge the responsibility for what exists now. You should not be a victim any longer, but be the master of the situation. What frequently drives a lot of people straight away to consider abortion is that urge to get rid of potential responsibility, and guilt. Stop dwelling over the past, think about right now. Take a deep abdominal breath of self-assurance, look upwards, and take a big confident step.
Step 4: ACCEPT YOURSELF AND FIND THE LOVE
It is important that you forgive yourself. It is not easy, but comes from a self-realised understanding that no real harm can ever come to our spiritual selves- even from sexual ignorance.
We are responsible to do something about something we now know about, and we are responsible for trying to increase our understandings of things we don't know about, we are not responsible for things, which we did not know about at that time. This is the key to go beyond guilt and awaken self-acceptance. More than forgiving yourself for getting pregnant, what you are actually doing is forgiving yourself for all your ignorance. This is a healthy start to becoming more wise.
Next it is important to find love in yourself and your partner. Just think for a moment, about that fateful day and how you felt about it? Whether your act was one of love or just 'for sex' or beautiful or dishonest. Finding love at that point of time of lovemaking has led many a women to change their decision from aborting it to keeping it.
Step 5: DECIDE TO LEARN SOMETHING FROM IT
Now is the time that you learn something from the whole event. Once you decide to learn something from a potential disaster means that you have accepted yourself, and plan to resolve the situation diligently. It is the time when you have realized the truth, and it is time for you to have a serious discussion with yourself.
Step 6: MEDITATE DEEP AND LONG BEFORE YOU DO ANYTHING ABOUT IT
The technique of meditation you can follow is "So Ham Mantra Japa". The purpose of meditation is to find out the answers and resolve conflicts.
Swami Gurupremnanda , recommends that one must go over these 6 steps time and over again till there are no feelings of guilt , or shame . Also some other factors to assist in the process are:
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